I suck at commenting. It’s the truth, no matter how much I try to deny it. I’m terrible at visiting other people’s blogs and commenting there. I’m horrible at replying to comments on this blog. And if I’m being honest, I hate commenting. There, I said it. I hate that I feel like I have to comment. Like it’s another responsibility.
On other blogs
I’m usually shy and reserved and not a conversation starter, but the person who feels a bit forced to carry it (unless of course, it’s something I have knowledge on or am passionate about). When I finish reading posts on other blogs, my first thought is not “what can I say?” but rather “What can I add? What can I contribute to the conversation?”. I need to decide whether its worth it for me to comment or not. I believe no comment at all is better than an insincere one like “Great pick!”.
There’s also the problem of feeling comfortable with commenting. I’ve always been shy and I always have the feeling that I’m being judged by others. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I do. When I comment on other blogs, especially if they are in another “clique” of the blogging world (for example, a non-fiction book blog, whereas I live in the glorious realm of YA), then I’m more picky about what I say.
I’m also really scared of having my words misinterpreted. I’m pretty sarcastic/sassy in real life, which is normally expressed through a series of hand motions, raised eyebrows, and other body language, as well as the tone in my voice. It’s hard to translate all that online and without doing so, its easy for the words, by themselves, to mean something entirely different from what I intended. In short, I’m afraid of offending people, which is also why I’m a bit scared for people to read this post.
I love and appreciate every comment I get. Or at least, I try to. (It’s kind of hard to love two word comments like “Great haul!”). Getting one genuine comment can make my day but I’m just as bad as replying to comments as I am with commenting on other blogs. I think it’s primarily because while I do read every single comment, I don’t always have the time to respond to them right away. And afterwords, it just seems like a chore to do so. Especially if I let them all pile up. By then, I really don’t want to reply but I feel like I have which just makes me feel even worse. For every comment I fail to respond to (which is a lot, by the way), I feel like I’m failing as a blogger. Not only can I not thank other people for taking their time to comment on my blog, but everything I can/do say feels forced and not genuine at all.
I love engaging in a conversation with my readers. I love interacting with you guys. But really, what can you say to a comment like “Great haul!” besides something as equality as boring as “Thanks for stopping by!”? And how many people actually respond back to a reply? Not many, if any at all. And then there’s the fact that a lot of times, I have nothing to add to the convo… All I can say is what I already said in the post or what the commentator said in her comment.
What is your take on comments and commenting?
Do you have any tips for me to try to make commenting easier?
Or to make them feel less like a chore and forced?